Imagine you are standing between two bridges. There is one on your left and another on your right. The one on your left leads to scholarships and being accepted into the college you wish to attend. The bridge on your right leads to teen pregnancy, dropping out of school, drug abuse, and minimum wage paying jobs. Depending on who you are affects the choice you make. You pick and choose the bridges you wish to cross and the bridges you wish to burn.
If you put the metaphorical bridges in a family situation, it works the same way. Say you are about fifteen years old. You have two brothers one of the age eighteen named Steven and another that is twenty one named Joseph. You find out that your brother Joseph’s girlfriend, whom you do not get along with, has moved in with your grandparents who live three feet away. Do you cross the bridge on the left that leads to being nice and praying about it or do you cross the bridge on the right that leads to being angry and not speaking to your brother Joseph. Let us say you pick the bridge on the right and get crazy mad. The next thing you know you are finding out that your brother Steven has pawned the truck your grandpa gave him and stealing things out of relatives shops and storage buildings. He has even lost his job and your entire family has stopped trusting him. At that moment, you must decide which bridge you will light on fire and watch burn and which bridge you will walk across without looking back.
The wise David Russell once said, “The hardest thing to learn in life is which bridge to cross and which to burn.” Many people are familiar with the bridges of life. I would have to agree that it is very difficult deciding which bridge to take and which to burn. When you come upon these bridges, you usually have a very small amount of time to decide. This often leads to making rash decisions based on first reactions. You cannot base your decisions on these reactions because they usually lead to the wrong decisions.