Cohabitation before Marriage
While cohabitation used to be taboo, more Americans now view it as normal and
healthy. I personally have found living together before marriage has provided exceptional insight into what my life partner was like prior to us getting married. In time, each of us discovered little idiosyncrasies about the other, and we managed to work out issues that could have caused problems later on. In talking with others regarding the practice of living together before marriage, the opinions vary greatly.
While some feel living together prior to marriage leads to a higher risk of divorce, the practice of living together is more acceptable now than it was 10, 15, 20 years ago. Couples who are choosing this option as a 'pre-trial' to marriage by combining lifestyles, incomes and housing feel it is more practical than living apart.
[pic] The times of living together in the 1970’s.
Cohabiters 20 years ago were the rule breakers, the rebels, the risk takers, these were the folks that did not want to be married, but chose another lifestyle as an alternative. Before the 60’s and 70’s cohabitation was considered a cheap imitation of marriage and considered a public disgrace.
The sexual revolution came along and made it ‘cool’ to be living together.
The folks who were living together in the 1970’s were high-level educated people. They chose living together as a means of convenience and in their own way a chance to ‘buck’ the system and not be pulled into marriage. Those living together had no religious decent and were not concerned with what was being said by the churches. The late 60’s and early 70’s were a time of freedom; freedom of expression, of feelings and freedom to not follow the systems rules that one has to be married to live together.
Back in the 70’s, statistics showed those couples that lived together and eventually were married had a higher divorce rate than the couples that did not live together prior to...