There are many different types of communication styles each person has a unique personality and communication style which plays a basic role in their personality perspectives. In the article “but what do you mean?” by Deborah Tannen the author argues that there is no right or wrong way to talk. Whereas in the article “Doublespeak” by William Lutz he argues that communication is carefully designed and constructed to mislead and corrupt our thoughts. However I agree with Tanner because men and women talk differently.
One of the most common reasons is that your communication style is different than the other person’s communication style. Tannen expresses” Unfortunately women and men often have different ideas about what’s appropriate and different ways of speaking “(para 2). For example my sister and her boyfriend work at the same company and they have different styles of communication. She loves detail and he just wants the bottom line and when they get home from work at the end of the day and she ask him how was your day? He responds with a simple fine or maybe if she is lucky he will give her a quick summary of one or two of the most important events. Tannen also goes on to explain how “many of the conversational rituals common among women are designed to take the others feelings into account, while many of the conversational rituals common among men are designed to maintain the one-up position or at least avoid appearing ones down” (para 2). For many of us our natural tendency in communicating is to use our own style because it is what comes naturally and automatically to us.
The success of any relationship relies on the ability to communicate well. Communication is important in all relationships as it allows us to share our interest, concerns and support for each other. Effective communication is based on the way we talk and listen, how we respond as well as our body language. All too often the signals we send are not those we intend to send. Tannen...