Behaviour is shown in the way we act and react to situations. Patterns of behaviour are learned from the people around us, as well as the media and books. As they grow older, their peer group and the culture of the wider community influence their responses. Certain types of behavior are deemed to be acceptable while others are unacceptable. During role play it is acceptable for children to talk together, but at story time all the children are expected to listen quietly to the storyteller. It takes time for children to learn to comply with the complex rules that define behaviour.
Children learn acceptable behaviour through:
positive role models
loving adults who have realistic expectations of children’s behaviour
clear and consistent expectations expressed verbally and non-verbally
fair and consistent boundaries of expected behaviour
appropriate rewards for acceptable behaviour
For example: Mary Jane screams and refuses to eat the rice pudding. Nanny offers her some chocolate ice cream instead and Mary Jane stops crying. The trouble is she reacts like this whenever there is rice pudding for dinner.
It works like this!
Nanny places a bowl of rice pudding infront of Mary Jane
Mary Jane starts to cry. She screams, "Don't like it!" and kicks her legs.
Nanny says, "Don't you like the delicious rice pudding?" She removes the rice pudding. "Don't cry! Would you like chocolate ice cream instead?" Mary Jane stops crying. She eats all the ice cream.
Next week, Nanny serves a bowl of rice pudding.
Mary Jane looks at the rice pudding and starts to cry.
Mary Jane refuses to eat her pudding.
Nanny says, "Eat up your pudding, then we will go to the park."
Mary Jane screams loudly. She pushes the bowl of rice pudding away.
Mary Jane gets down from the table. She is still screaming.
Nanny puts the rice pudding back infront of Mary Jane. "Be a good girland eat up your lovely rice pudding." "You used to like It." "Come on,...