Emotionally Focused Couples Paper
Andrea Hayden- Davis
October 26, 2015
Nonverbal and Verbal skills
The verbal and nonverbal skills of the counselor in this video are very apparent when she is working with this couple. She is very clear and concise when working with the couple. As far her nonverbal skills her observatory skills and how she was able to see that they were emotionally engaging towards one another when they interacted on all levels. The counselor would notice that the male would cross his arms in fro of him, and she would say something that would be intriguing to the female that would allow her to open up and share her thoughts. With her sharing her thought this would cause the male become less defensive and uncross and drop his arms. The behavior of the two allowed the counselor to become aware of their movements while she engaged with them as they expressed their feeling. The ability to read their body language allowed the couple to hear one another and participate much better in the discussion and to also learn better about each other.
As far as the verbal skills of the counselor during this time with the couple, she was very engaging as in stepping in and stopping the clients so that she could repeat and/or question and reflect on what one of them had said. This was for clarification, to get the other to listen to what the other person was saying to make sure that it was clear, concise and understood. The counselors attending behavior did help the couple with being reflective about the communication issues and misunderstandings within their relationship. She showed empathy for them both and used a very soft spoken voice when she confronted them on specific issues so that she could reframe their words so that they continued to hear one another. With her questioning she used various types to get clarification on certain issues.
Were there certain questions/ comments that created change in the non...