101 Ways to Build a Happy, Long Lasting
Dating and marriage is different than it was twenty years ago. In today’s society,
more than 50% of all marriages fail for one reason or another. Just thinking
about that makes “commitment” seem scary. It seems that when relationships
are faced with challenges, people quit trying.
Dating is more like a marathon, trying to date as many people as possible,
instead of taking time to get to know someone at a deeper level. For married
couples, divorce is not biased. Whether married for thirty years or eight months,
the outcome can be the same.
The fact is that relationships, whether dating or married, are hard. Things do not
always go perfectly, fighting does occur, and it takes a 100% commitment from
both parties to make it a success. Often when people break off a relationship,
they feel as though something is missing. The “spark” has gone, leaving one or
both people feeling inadequate and unfulfilled.
However, even though the odds are not very good, healthy, and long-lasting
relationships are definitely possible and proven by many people. What secrets
do long lasting relationships possess? The answer is that they all work hard at
their relationship. They made a decision of choosing to love their mate rather
than relying on the “warm and fuzzy” feelings, which everyone knows will fade.
By making love a choice you are making a decision that even in the bad times,
you stick it out.
Think of it like choosing a car. You pick out the make, model, year, color, and
features that you believe are best for you. After driving your car for a couple of
months, you realize that perhaps you should have purchased a larger car, or that
maybe the leather seats would have been better, or on hot sunny days, the
sunroof would have been nice. However, it is now too late so you choose to keep
your car and make it work.
It is the same for marriage. Not everything will be perfect and there will be major