Yuri Constantine Fons
March 9, 2009
Honesty in a successful relationship
“Sex is full of lies. The body tries to tell the truth. But, it’s usually too battered with rules to be heard, and bound with pretenses so it can hardly move. We cripple ourselves with lies.” Jim Morrison.
I had always thought myself to be an honest person, and by society’s standards I was. But what society considers honest and what true honesty is are two separate things. We’ve been systematically taught in our culture to make lying a part of our lives. We do it so often that we don’t even notice it anymore. Honesty is something I feel often gets overlooked, but it’s a lesson that probably comes to us all, eventually. For me, honesty is a vital link in the ecosystem of life, on which everything either directly or indirectly depends. It can seem unimportant, but if you try to remove it, the entire system falls apart. It can be a very complex issue, however, because there are degrees of both honesty and dishonesty, and it’s not always as simple as asserting that you should always tell the truth there are plenty of situations where the truth is better withheld.
By raising a discussion of this subject I am of course not talking about the aspects of honesty covered by the concept of saving peoples’ feelings. I’m talking about delivering false truths and/or withholding true truths for one’s own benefit, from another who would otherwise benefit if the truth were not withheld from them. Firstly, I feel that it all begins with the pattern of lying and this can lead to dishonesty and dishonesty can be seen