April 9, 2013
Reactions of Divorce
The topic of divorce would seem to always be a touchy discussion. Divorce refers to the often messy and painful end of a marriage. For better or for worse, divorce is a very common event these days. Mostly everyone has been touched by it, either by going through it themselves as a spouse or a child, or knowing someone who has gone through it as a spouse or as a child. Divorce may be liberating to one spouse but the children if any are greatly affected.
My parents are divorced and have been ever since I can remember. I know that I am loved by both of my parents equally but it has not been an easy process. Initially, my father who filed for divorce was happy. My aunt on my mother side and my grandparents on my mother’s side shared the same relief and happiness. Despite all of my other family members who viewed the divorce as a new beginning, I believe I and my father’s mother were the only ones with any remorse. My family was gone and now broken. It was very difficult to overhear the sudden change of living arrangements and visiting days where I expected to see my father. My life seemed to change overnight. Everything in my world that had some sort of normalcy was now upside down.
My grandparents on my mother’s side were very relieved to hear that my mother had become single again. It’s kind of funny now that I replay certain moments in my head, like the day my grandmother told my mother that she is now praying for a new and better son in law. In fact my grandmother had a few guys in mind that she wanted my mother to meet. It seemed the divorce brought out everyone’s individual opinions and views of my parent’s marriage. The majority was against my parents union from the beginning.
As a child growing up, hearing and witnessing a lot of conversations and disputes at one point it felt as if it was my fault. I witnessed my dad marry...