The Effects of Divorce on Children
Marriage & Family
April 27, 2005
This paper will discuss the effects that divorce has on children. It will state the many reasons why parents get a divorce, what will become of the children, and how the children feel about the divorce. Many children feel as if they are the reason why their parents are divorcing. It will also discuss how children cope after the divorce is finalized.
According to John W. Santrock, in the United States the percentage of divorce families were 36.7 percent in the year of 2000. Many parents are worried about the effect that divorce will have on their child or children. When parents divorce the children are most likely to suffer a variety of physical and emotional problems. While parents may be devastated about the divorce, children are confused and frightened about their security. Many parents may turn to their child or children for love, comfort, and support during this time. Some children may misinterpret the divorce unless their parents tell them what is happening, how they are involved and not involved, and what the future will hold for them. Sometimes children believe that they have caused the problems between their parents. Many children assume that it is their responsibility to bring their parents back together.
The key to coping with the divorce for children is talking to them. It may not be an easy task, but you must inform the children that it is not their fault. Explain to them that it was not anything that they said or done to cause the divorce. During this period do not keep it a secret or wait until it is too late to explain what is going on in the relationship. Both parents should sit down together and talk to the children. Make sure all information is simple and straight to the point. Inform them that this will be sad and upsetting for the entire family, but they will still be loved by each parent. Don’t hesitate to...