The Issue of Assertiveness

The Issue of Assertiveness

Assertiveness is something that I, like many others, have had issues with for a long period of time in my life. Throughout the weeks of this course I acquired some knowledge on how to assert myself better in life. Each week brought a new idea to mind on how to be more assertive. I was amazed at how many other people in the class dealt with or had trouble dealing with being assertive. The class had a fair mix of young and experienced human beings, all with the same goal in mind. There are many lessons that I’ll take with me and apply them to my personal life. When and how to say NO, I’m OK you’re OK, treating others with equal respect, and always remembering that I have the right to simply just be myself. There are many things that I could write about to express how I have been asserting myself since this course began.
The main example I have is with my very own mother. I have to say that my mother is the typical Italian woman. I feel as if there are times when she asks me to do something that it is solely out of guilt that I finally cave in and do them. Being assertive in certain situations with my mother can help our relationship grow and prosper, and slowly but surely help her understand that her baby boy is growing up. There are times that she makes me feel belittled. Being independent is something I strive for and take pride in. Knowing that I can do the basic domestic things in life like cooking, cleaning and paying my own bills is satisfying to me. In the same regard, my mother looks at those things and still feels the need to be “motherly” and want to do them for me. I appreciate her help. I would also like her to acknowledge the fact that I can do things on my own now. The assertiveness training course has helped me slowly ease into this transition with my mother by using various assertive techniques that I didn’t know of before. A perfect example of what I’m trying to explain is by letting her know ``I`m ok, you`re ok``. That simple line really...

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