My body cues are that tell me when I am getting angry are that I cross my arms, bite my fingernails, or tap my foot or fingers. When it comes to what makes me mad, it can vary from day to day. The things that really make me angry are when people talk about themselves all the time. It really bugs me to think that this person would be so completely into their own selves that they don’t take the time to look at what is actually around them. Another thing that makes me angry is when people don’t stand up for themselves. Everyone has self-worth and it makes me angry to see that someone is picking on them in the first place, but then the fact that they just stand there and choose not to speak their mind or just have the self-respect to walk away from the situation. A third example of my anger triggers is when people judge other people. I know that I don’t like to get in one of those conversations that lead to someone bashing someone else based on their beliefs.
My anger style can be extremely passive, but I know that I stand up for myself when I feel it necessary. When someone upsets me I don’t confront them about it because I feel that it isn’t something that is always up to me. My friends and I get along really well, and if there is something wrong no one talks about it. The same is at home. If my family gets upset we all just keep it to ourselves. My sister makes me extremely angry, but I never yell at her unless she says something that really cuts deep. I don’t think that I always express my anger in a healthy way. I have a situation with my friend right now that I don’t like to talk about because I feel that she will just get angry and not want to talk to me anymore, since this has happened in the past with me. Trusting people is a huge issue with me and I feel that if I break the trust that I have with them I won’t get it back from them.
Something that I can do to change the way I express my anger is to talk to people how I feel at that moment,...