A Critique of
“Will your Marriage Last?” by Aviva Patz
I decided after my first marriage ended, that I will never get married again. I felt like dying when my dream: “married my first and great love and to be with him until death” had been destroyed, and I thought that I would never fall in love again. I desperately went to talk with priests, pastors, psychologists and friends to find out what happened with my marriage, where my mistakes were, what I should do. I didn’t know what I wanted to do.
Lately I understood that marriage is something like an enterprise where a couple works; designing a project together, being loyal with each other, respecting the privacy of each other, supporting each other in their weak and strengths, by learning of experience, fixing mistakes in order to enhance the company in all the ways: economically, socially and with solid stability.
In this article “Will your Marriage last? the author Aviva Patz gossips on a study designed to response that curious interrogation. This study was created to measure the success of a marriage, called PAIR (Processes of Adaptation in Intimate Relationships), designed and directed by Ted Hudson, a professor of human ecology and psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. In this research Hudson is demonstrating that after a long time of researching, studying and interviewed 168 couples, he can predict if a marriage will last interviewing a couple who reached two years of marriage.
This article states in the page 445 of the book: “First, contrary to popular belief, Huston found that many newlyweds are far for blissfully in love. Second, couples whose marriages begin in romantic bliss are particularly divorce-prone because such intensity is too hard to maintain. Believe it or not, marriages that start out with less “Hollywood romance” usually have more promising futures. Accordingly, and this is the third major finding, spouses in lasting but lack-luster marriages are not prone to...