The codependent leader is an emotional, psychological and behavioral condition that develops as a result of prolonged exposure to, and practice of, a set of oppressive rules – rules that prevent open expression of feelings as well as discussion of personal problems. Codependency is most often associated with people living with others who are compulsively dependent on something or someone. The social system around these types of relationships counterbalancing a socially unacceptable and embarrassing behavior of the dependent person often involves strict rules that dictate how the individual must behave and communicate in public resulting in coping behaviours for covering up develops. This further enhances an emotional repression that creates great stress for the codependent person with very high unrealistic standards that are impossible to consistently meet which results in a constant sense of failure and self-blame and the tendency to react rather than to initiate action. (McIntosh Gary et al 1997)
Codependents react to the behavior of the dependent person; they make an effort to balance, cover up, maintain peace in relationships, taking personal responsibility for the inappropriate attitudes, emotions, and actions of others. Codependent leaders avoid confrontations serving as peacemakers, extremely benevolent, always willing to take on another task despite being often overextended creating the domino effect of repressed anger and frustration. In essence, the problem of codependency involves the way that an individual copes with the behaviors and expectations of those around him or her.
The passive-aggressive leader
Passive-aggressive leaders have a tendency to resist demands to adequately perform tasks. This is most expressed through procrastination, dawdling, stubbornness, forgetfulness and intentional inefficiency. All of this stems from the fear of failure and from the fear that success may bread higher expectations which...