Furthermore, one of negative effect brought by corporal punishment is adult-children relationships. In a New Zealand study of 80 children aged 5 to 14, the negative emotions such as sad, angry, fearful, and estranged from their parents after people use physically punishment with their children (gershoff p). Painful experiences or sources of pain (inflicted via physical punishment) will be tried to avoid by children, they also limit to expose their parents, which leads to underdeveloped of trust and closeness between adult and child. Children will pull back within themselves instead of sharing their feeling or emotions with people around them.
Supporters of corporal punishment think that spare the rod and spoil the child and they need to punish children so that children can distinguish right from wrong. Children never learn good manners right if people only say without punish, thus, punishment is necessary way to educate child. This point has some merit on the surface. Corporal punishment may teach children to link violence with loving relationships (). With children are usually spanked, they will develop a notion that spanking is an acceptable and normal behavior of adults soon. Children can able to solve problems by violent when they grow up and they exhibit violent behavior towards other people or even to their own children. Instead of creating social fairy and loving, life becomes serious with many problems about mental health’s people or their feeling others. Therefore, corporal punishment should be banned when we want to raise children become good person.
There is no double that corporal brings many negative effects than goods for people. In place of punishing children, people may treat them as lovingly and caringly as possible, it is the best choice for children because they are fatigue.