Is ‘belonging’ really the best?
Belonging to certain groups or clubs may have some benefits but may also have some disadvantages. Being in a group may give someone the feeling of ‘belonging’, but that feeling could have negative effects in the long run. Just because someone is in a group, club, etc., does it mean they are really a part of it, or are they there for their own status-quo? Some benefits of ‘belonging’ could include: getting a raise at work, going to parties with friends, and feeling popular. Disadvantages of ‘belonging’ could be: no personal time, losing what you worked for, and losing friends. Since clubs have been around for a long time, it makes one wonder if the draw is popularity, self-esteem, or a possible job advancement.
One attraction to a club or group can be popularity. Popularity can possibly be beneficial in the way that you can get recognized for an accomplishment. Popularity is mostly a negative thing though, especially if you look at popular people. What are popular people doing, they are making each other feel good, which could mean that even if they do something wrong, others make them feel better about what they did and how they are necessary to the ‘popular group’.
Groups or clubs can attract people by boosting others self-esteem. In our daily lives we constantly, consciously or unconsciously, look for someone to boost our self-esteem. Getting our self-esteem boosted feels good, but can make our ego bigger and get in our way with daily life and tasks we must take on.
Lastly job advancements can be a very big reason for someone to feel as if they ‘belong’. A job is something most everyone needs in order to live in life. Without a job, people can go bankrupt, lose their personal possessions, and become homeless. People will do anything they can to keep a job, or get a job advancement. So feeling as if they ‘belong’ lulls them into a false sense of security of they won’t lose their job.
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