M4A2: Romantic Attachment Styles
Romantic Attachment Styles
The romantic attachment style that describes me the best is the secure attachment style. Up until a few years ago, my passionate affection form differed because of a previous relationship that was unhealthy for me, emotionally and mentally. Therefore, how I describe my current relationship with my fiancée is in the secure attachment style, which is a mature and desired style of love. As a confident mature woman my fiancée and I have the same feelings regarding our relationship with us both feeling joined, while allowing each other to be open in our separate views and fears. We suggest care for one another, both emotionally and mentally when one of us feels distraught or sad. We often find comfort in each other when feelings of trouble come about and we remain honest, and equal in making decisions. The relationship between my fiancée and I is based upon trust, respect, and allows for each of us to have individual ideas and remain in love with one another (PsychAlive, 2016). I feel as if my personal affections characteristics are solely by the trust in my fiancée that he will maintain and be responsible for adoration and encouragement (Kenrick, Neuberg, & Cialdini, 2007, p. 270).
Although, as I first mentioned in this assignment, my attachment style changed into a secure style a few years ago when I connected with my current fiancée, and up until the time him and I formed our relationship, I had been previously involved in a few mentally abusive relationships. The way I dealt with the unhealthiness of the relationship would be considered the anxious attachment style in which I felt as if other people were hesitant in becoming intimate with me and I feared I had more of a desire to become close to them, emotionally. Habitually I agonized over asking myself if my lover actually loved me or did not truly want to be in a relationship with me....