We cannot choose or control all the elements that make up our personal reality.
We are all in control of our lives. At least that’s what we would like to believe isn’t it? The truth is we have very little control of the elements that make up our personal reality on the surface, but what we do have control of is the choices we make in light of what is happening around us which essentially is more important to building our realities around us.
Firstly, are the things we have no choice about? Our genetic make up for one. This may have been true for most a hundred years ago, but with technology advancing as it is, we can have many elements of our genes being changed or hidden. My DNA dictates that I have brown hair, but I can make it blonde if I want. My skin can be as pale as the clouds but I can cheat this by getting a spray tan. Finally, one of the biggest cheats of all, I can get an operation become male if I like as it no longer matters that I was born Female.
These things however are superficial. They don’t change my DNA. My spray tan will wash off one day; my hair will always grow back brown and as for the sex change I would always have girl bits on the inside despite having boy bits on the outside. But give it a few more years and who knows... we may just be able to.
Another reality we have no choice about is the family we belong to, but it is our choice to accept or reject them. When I was a teenager I rejected my parents. I never believed in what they believed in and I had no idea how I was born into this place in the world. Oh, the fights we all had trying desperately to make the other understand. But I’m a bit older now and it seems less important to be understood by them. I still feel like an anomaly but now I choose to keep the peace and bite my tongue when I hear my parents say something I think is outrageous. I have chosen to love and accept them for who they are because the saying is true – You can choose your friends but you can’t choose...