Does Happiness exist?-
First, the punchline. Happiness exists! That's the good news. The bad news is that it does not exist in the way most of us think it exists. Most of us show up stuck in the fiction reality is real and we are real people trying to figure out what we need to do to be happy. We look for it, as the saying goes, in all the wrong places, mostly in the so-called external world we keep in place as 'out there.' We insist that happiness is 'out there' and we are in here exploring what's 'out there' to discover how it can bring us the happiness we say we yearn for.
We search for love as if it is something that resides out there, waiting to be discovered and imported. We luxuriate in the fantasy that this person will bring us love and that one won't. We operate as if love is scarce and we must locate the right person for the perfect match.
For most people, life is a very serious 'Love Hunt' Everywhere eyes are flashing to see if this one is the 'right one.' We wander the landscape looking for 'him' or 'her,' in bars, along crowded streets, on the beach, often assuming that it comes packaged in the right bathing suit. We roll on through a maze of infatuations, false starts, trial and error, as long as we remain true to the fiction that it is 'out there.'
When it begins to dawn on us that the premise is wrong, The 'Love Hunt' comes into focus as fairly odd behavior. It isn't 'out ther' and keeping this premise in place works perfectly to support the fiction that it is 'scarce,' elusive and 'fleeting.' The 'Love Hunt' achieves the goal of turning love into suffering. Yesterday I had 'it' and today it has gone and left me, as one song after another testifies. Country Western songs work over time to keep the myth alive that it is as tricky as roping doggies and that it is somewhere 'out there,' probably 'over the rainbow.'
Breakthrough happens when the thought crosses your mind that it is the hunt for love that makes it seem incredibly elusive. The...