Between ages 2 1/2 to 4 1/2 children are learning social skills and manners that will be the foundation for their social interactions. Between the ages of 12 to 15, there is another develop mental period when young teens are open to developing and polishing social skills. This is one reason that dance lessons and cotillion are offered at this age.
Between ages three to six, children are learning social cues, such as, when to say please and thank you and to whom, how to meet people, shake hands, and on and on. Children are also learning how to care for themselves: dressing, tying shoes, eating, washing, bathing, brushing hair and teeth are among the many self-care skills children are learning at this age.
Also children are interested in learning to care for their home and family by making beds, cleaning, sweeping, cooking and gardening. These early practical skills strengthen social skills and relationships throughout our
We can assist our children in acquiring skills by modelling and giving simple instructions. Allowing our children to watch and interact with us as we work, models vital skills. We can also give short“lessons”. For social skills,though, the teachable moment is not when we expect a certain
behavior, but rather beforehand, with indirect preparation.
Perhaps neighbors are coming over for coffee. What social skills will your child need to be successful in this situation?
Some of the social skills you might want to teach are greeting the neighbor, introducing oneself, offering a place to sit, offering food or drink, thanking guests for the visit, and saying goodbye. A short lesson for self-introduction might go like this:
“William, our neighbors are coming for coffee on Saturday. When they get here I’d like for you to introduce yourself. This is how you introduce yourself. Extend your hand and shake hands. Then say “Hello. My name is William. I’m glad to meet you .’Now let’s pretend that I am Mr. or Ms.
Jones. I’ll walk through the door...