Friendship: Starting and Sustaining Love

Friendship: Starting and Sustaining Love

Before there is authentic love, there is deep and meaningful friendship. How well do we know this yet act as if we don't? We sometimes jump into relationships one after another and act as if friendship, one that takes time to establish and nurture, is overrated. Fact is, friendship is underrated.

Friendship is a great blessing in life. But perhaps we, adolescents who are about to discover feelings for the opposite sex, have not fully understood why friendship can and does very successfully start and sustain the romantic love we all look forward to later on in life.

What most people never take the time or effort to understand is the beauty of naturalness in friendship. Let's imagine ourselves with our circle of friends or with our best friend? Aren't we at total and complete ease? Aren't we just comfortable of ourselves in front of them? There are times may look our worst and our best, we expose our worst traits and display our best ones? We show and tell them our feelings, our past hurts, or our fears and even embarrassing moments. We really bare our souls to them. These things we tell because we trust them, because they have been honest with us through time. And if this is the quality of friendship we share, shouldn't we be able to share the same to a person we want to be with as a spouse? If we make the time to invest this much and open ourselves up this much to friends, shouldn't it hold the same for our life partner? Of course.

Friendship allows us to see pleasant and unpleasant things that will elate us and disappoint us, things that will make us laugh and cry, things that will make us proud and frustrated. We do not hold these back from our friends; they just have to know. We know our friend's joys, fears, weaknesses and strengths, good and bad habits, what makes them angry and what makes them laugh, what they believe in and stand for, where we could learn from them. We understand them in a way most people don't , and they us. Common...

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