Rogerian Argument
What I gathered from the rogerian argument is that you
need to find common ground with the other person and
showing value in your point and not just push your point of
view on them. This does seem like it would be affective. As
if to use in daily life I can see it at work with spouses,
boss’s, children, teenagers, or even parents. Personally I
think I have had to do this with my children a bit because
I’m not very good at demanding things and they are not very
good at wanting to do what I say. My ex’s mom is actually a
good example. That woman and I spent about four yrs. at
each other. We both refused to listen to the other and both
thought we were right. At last at someone’s advice I told
her that I understand her views and that I’m trying to
understand how she feels and I wish she would do the same
for me. That we both agree that its best to do what’s in
the girls best interest. That I have no problem with them
seeing them as much as they want but I did believe they
were being a bit selfish in wanting them on all holidays
and birthdays. The conversation went on, but I guess my
point is she changed toward me and almost seems like she
might almost like me now. But I constantly have to
understand her and work with her about things to keep peace
and to me that gets tiresome. So in the end I do think
people react more positive when they see that you will
consider their views.