Talking Styles

Talking Styles

When it comes to different styles of talking there are many different ways to communicate with one another. If you are engaged in a conversation with someone it is very important that the person you are speaking with understands what you are trying to say to them. If the person you are speaking with has a funny facial expression they may not understand what you are trying to say to them and in this case it is important to break down the conversation further to get a point across. The article that we read in the ProQuest Data base states “unconscious verbal coordination of this sort, dubbed language-style matching by the researchers, signifies not how much two people like each other but how much each is paying attention to what the other says” (Bower, 2010).
When it comes to language style matching I do not think it is a thorough way to predict the quality of interpersonal relationships. For example two people may be from different countries and what one says may not necessarily have the same meaning as the other person’s country. Our textbook states “Remind yourself that what a word means to you may not be what it means to someone else. In interpersonal communication, for messages to be clearly understood, meaning must be negotiated, or agreed to, by parties to the communication. Feedback is an important part of the communication process, so check to make sure that others understand your messages and elicit feedback to ensure that they understand your messages” (Sole, 2011). Two people that have a hard time communicating may very well have a great relationship. When I was married my ex-husband was from Thailand I will admit that when we first started dating I at times had a very hard time understanding what he was saying but I took the time to ask him exactly what point he trying to get across. By confirming what he was trying to say kept me out of trouble, I learned very quickly not to just agree with him to shut him up. We were married for eleven years and...

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