Marriage seems like an easy term to understand. Most people know what marriage means. Strictly speaking, marriage is an interpersonal relationship with government, social, or religious recognition, based on a contract. I have found that it means different things to different people, and there are also different types of marriage. The most common is a legally and religiously recognized union between a man and a woman.
When I got married, I married for true and long lasting love. I thought when I got married it was going to be forever, as in “to death do us part.” I based my belief on watching my parent’s marriage. They were married for 43 years when my father passed away. They did not have a perfect marriage, but they loved each other and treated each other with respect. I always believed that divorce was not an option unless there was abuse. I always believed that if you loved someone enough, you could always work things out for the better, nothing was impossible.
A friend of mine, on the other hand, had an altogether different idea about marriage. He did believe that marriage should last forever, but his ideas of why we get married were very different. He did not believe in one true love. He thought all that was needed was compatibility and security. When he got married, he felt that he was at an age that he was expected to get married and start a family. He was in a good relationship and felt safe and secure with his girlfriend, so he decided to marry her. After ten years of marriage he realized that compatibility and security were not enough.
He spent ten more years of marriage trying to figure out what he needed to continue in this relationship. He was not as happy as people he knew that had been married for twenty years and more, and he was not sure what he needed to find that kind of happiness.
There is another type of marriage that is even more different. This is a marriage that is not out of...